It was a magical night. For drizzly, chilly Saint John, New Brunswick – the skies yielded a billion stars in celebration of this most wonderful evening. Stars were a huge part of the birth of One Very Special Baby. The same happened during the evening of June 15, 1981 when our very special baby – our first daughter – was born.
It’s amazing how you simply ‘become parents’ when your child is born – this lifelong journey of giddy joy, deep sorrows – love and loss. How my parents withstood it – I will never know. How I bless them for their sacrifice on my behalf. No matter how much preparation is done – ‘the baby is born’ is such a simplistic statement of what has just happened. A tiny little commander has entered the family and nothing will ever be the same – it will be better beyond what you can dream. This was completely true in our little family.
I share the same name and non-blue eyes. She is very much like her dad in personality and hair colour…(when he had hair). She lights up the room with her brilliant smile and exuberant personality. Life was incredibly exciting when our daughter was born. We journeyed through the difficulties of breast feeding, colic, first stuffy-nosed colds, medical appointments, learning to eat solid food, walking, talking, and new sisterhood (to name a few milestones).
As she grew – it was our complete joy to search for ‘church dresses’, go to piano practice, sign up for soccer and search high and low for the correct Ninja turtle. Our Disney trip was planned specifically so that we could get all four autographs of this incredible quartet. We supported tears and teen days, serious medical issues, princess moments, driver training, college, engagement, wedding and even the celebration of our daughter’s daughter coming into the world. Nothing was too hard or out of reach it seemed.
We are parents for life. We didn’t take vows. We just ‘became’. Yes, God creates the life in our body. Yes, it’s a miracle. But at the same time, it happens in one moment in time. In our case, we did not know ‘who’ to expect – so when my beloved said ‘It’s a girl’ – between the pain, the focus, and the announcement – my life was never, nor will ever be the same because she entered into it.
So it was entirely appropriate that there were a billion stars and a brilliant moon to welcome her arrival. I held her close and made my own vow of love and loyalty. I told her that she would be mine. I would never let her go. History would not repeat itself. What a privilege – this daughter of mine. While we are at a distance now – the bond of love cannot be broken. In my heart – it was sealed with our first introduction. Love never fails in the heart of a parent.