You can’t dictate it. You can’t ask for it. You can’t even dare to dream about it, because simply, it has to happen all by itself. We are family by blood and marriage, but more importantly we are friends in heart and mind.
We can chat about heartaches or nothing at all…we are as close as we can possibly be, even though many, many miles separate us.
It started as two brothers, who married two very different girls – who just ‘got along’. We enjoyed each other’s company from the beginning and now over 30 years later – we still chat on the phone all the time, catch up, hang out and miss each other.
Right now, it’s ‘worst case scenario’ – one brother is hurting, the other brother is far away, Changed Woman is where Changed Woman always seems to be…on her computer in Central Canada and her girlfriend/sister-in-love…is by her own beloved’s side…We cannot be together right now, but we are pulling out all technology stops to hear each other’s voices and share the concern, the laughs and the daily parts of our lives that add up to our life in general.
We have Playbooks, laptops, cellphones….I mean, we’re armed for keeping in touch – regardless of the distance. No matter what, we carry them in a very special place in our hearts where only they can fit – and they know it.
We’ve travelled to see them, they’ve travelled to see us, we’ve met on vacation with our kids, our dogs, our cats and most importantly – our LOVE. Yes, it’s true they are family, but no one could ever have predicted they would become our friends. Friends of the closest kind – where there is context, support, concern and a place to belong. We ‘get’ them and they ‘get’ us, which is a tall order of friends or family. We are incredibly blessed to have them all rolled up in one.
We laugh when we are together. We have travelled the journey of ups and downs, understanding that God has been there through each and every situation. We have rejoiced in celebration and cried in sorrow with the disappointments – but its amazing that we don’t have to do it alone our “In Loves” do it with us, as we do it with them. They mirror us in many ways and that’s where our truest comfort lies…we are connected at the heart…the most powerful connection of all.