I would never have thought this possible – much less write about it for the world to see – but I need my kids. When Robin Williams played the devoted dad in Mrs. Doubtfire and he appeared in court for the assignment of custody – he wailed – “I need my kids like I need air.” I got it the first time he said it and on many subsequent occasions when I have watched that movie – I need my kids like I need air.
I know I’m not a parent fighting over custody (I’m so grateful), nor am I a parent facing the empty nest. Been there, done that. I am, however, a parent who loves her kids and even more than that – enjoys friendship with her adult children. I just crave time with my kids. Why are they so necessary to me?
Children reflect so many things about the life you have lived. Our kids are involved in ministry and have always embraced ministry opportunity when it was presented – without flinching. Devotees in their own right to God. It’s so wonderful to see that unfold. The ministry is one example of this reflection.
Children provide opportunities for you to express yourself with abandonment. I freely laugh at my kids (and with them), cry with them (or over them), rejoice with them, celebrate, mourn…all intensely private feelings that can be expressed – only with your kids.
Children create a world unto themselves through their careers, homes and lives that give cause for great excitement for the parents on stand by. I relish those times when one of our children will share an accomplishment, a dream, a goal. To watch them taking their place in their adult world as a fully functioning citizen is incredibly satisfying.
Children give me a reason to believe I have purpose in this world. We all need to be needed in some way. As a mom, its great if I can buy a coffee, be a sounding board, share a meal, or be there to give or receive a hug. I’m not needy – I just desire to bless my kids in any way possible. I hope it will strengthen them for the journey ahead and make the burden just a little bit lighter.
What would I do without the excitement of children? Where would I be without children? I really don’t even want to imagine my life without my kids. Children – my precious children – all three of them (yes, you read it correctly) have filled my life beyond what I could ask or think about my life. They are essential ingredients to my heart and soul.