Relationships are complicated. I think everyone will agree with that statement. I am continuously challenged in my life to maintain relationships that lift me up. Why is it that so many times I am simply let down? (This is a rhetorical question, for I know the answer).
I want to love, accept, respect. I really hope that this behaviour somehow will pay it forward to a relative, a colleague, a near family member, a neighbour, a stranger. Sometimes it doesn’t feel that way, though. I despair when ‘things’ don’t turn out as I hope they will in my opinion. I become frustrated, angry, yes, I will admit, I sometimes want to take matters into my own hands. Won’t work, will it? I hear you yelling it out loud from wherever you might be here and now.
I don’t want the tie that binds to be my funeral. Life is so short. Can we not just focus on things we have in common as opposed to things that keep us apart? This is not a sad love song from The Carpenters, friends. I’m talking about real life. This is me pouring out my heart about how complicated we make our relationships when we turn our backs on forgiveness, second chances, and agape love – the kind God has for us.
My Beloved and I were discussing friendships and how a person becomes or better yet, remains a friend. I honestly couldn’t answer the question – I don’t know what to say. Who are my friends? Really, I don’t know.
In this self indulgent cry for acceptance, respect and possibly love – I do know this – Proverbs 18:24 “A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”
Why can’t we be friends? Why can’t we enjoy each other as people? Why can’t we love our family? Why can’t we act as our Friend – who loves us all – beyond our wildest imagination.
My heart is searching for those people who are looking for the same thing.